Episode 116: The Audacity to Want More

There comes a point after the healing, rebuilding, and figuring yourself out when something shifts.

You realize you want more.

More from your relationships. More from your career. More from the life you’re building. More from yourself.

And instead of immediately questioning whether you’re asking for too much, you start wondering: What if I’m finally asking for what I actually want?

In this episode of herspective, Jillian and Drey unpack what it means to have the audacity to want more and the courage it takes to actually pursue it.

Jillian shares how the “hiring manager” mentality she’s adopted in dating has started influencing other areas of her life. Instead of waiting to be chosen, proving her worth, or accepting whatever is offered, she’s learning to approach life from a place of standards, boundaries, and choice.

Drey opens up about entering a new chapter that includes marriage and bonus motherhood while refusing to believe those roles require her to make herself smaller. Her ambitions, goals, and identity don’t have to disappear simply because her life is evolving.

Together, they talk about the pressure women feel to fit into certain boxes, the fear of being judged when you pursue something different, and what happens when the people around you don’t understand or support the version of you that you’re becoming.

Jillian also reflects on moving to Los Angeles to pursue acting and why she doesn’t consider that chapter a failure, even though the dream eventually changed. Sometimes betting on yourself isn’t about whether something works out exactly as planned. Sometimes it’s about knowing you were brave enough to try.

And both Jillian and Drey get vulnerable about one of their most audacious decisions yet: starting herspective. From perfectionism and putting themselves on camera to sharing deeply personal parts of their lives publicly, the podcast has required them to become comfortable with being seen, judged, misunderstood, and imperfect.

But it has also helped them heal.

This conversation is for the woman standing at the edge of her comfort zone wondering whether she’s allowed to ask for something bigger.

You are.

Because nothing changes if nothing changes.

And your comfort zone may be a beautiful place, but nothing grows there.